No More Kiss And Run [How To Commit]

Okay, time to be honest now.  How many times have you left a relationship because it got too serious?  Or because the “honeymoon” stage of a new relationship disappeared.  Maybe, just simply, because you are afraid of commitment?

Not only have I known people who couldn’t commit to a relationship if you paid them… I know that it is a problem lots of men and woman suffer from.  Unfortunately, if the person you’re with for the moment isn’t on the same page as you, they will feel hurt.

Commitment isn’t easy.  Never is.  You have to be ready for it.  If you’re not, then my advice probably won’t help you any.  Try to be commited to the idea of commitment.   

BUT don’t jump into a new relationship with only commitment on your mind, either.  It only works if you’re already in a relationship.  Chances are, if you go into a relationship looking to be with this person forever, you can scare them off.  If you go in looking for a one night stand, they’ll probably be hurt if that isn’t what they were expecting either.  The right way?  Go into a new relationship looking to grow with this person and see how it goes.  Try to fight the flight defense when things start to progress.  If you think your relationship is getting too serious too fast, talk to them about it.  Hay, talking about this stuff will also help keep your relationship healthy.

 If you’re already in a relationship, and you’re getting scared of committing completely to this person, talk to them.  Depending on how long you’ve been together, I’m sure they will be understanding.  Make sure you’re both on the same page for what each of you want.  If slowing down the seriousness of the relationship is what you’d like til you got more confortable, see if that would be okay with them.  It won’t be okay with everyone, but the right person that cares about you will be flexible to your needs and feelings.  Just as I’d hope you would be for them.

To sum it all up: push your commitment boundaries.  You don’t have to push it too far, just enough that you can leave your commitment comfort zone and get used to a new level.  Moving slowly in your relationship isn’t a bad thing, just make sure you don’t stall it because you’re scared.  Commitment isn’t as bad as you might think.  Who wouldn’t want to be with someone who would love them forever?